Monday, June 30, 2008

How to Make Your Ex Fall in Love With You Again

Here is something that you guys might have heard of before. Girls LOVE romance! If you want to make them fall and fall hard, you have to ride up to them like their knight in shining armour. So what if they have dumped you recently and right now they even HATE you? Well, as you know, there is a very thin line between love and hate. If they vehemently despise you for whatever reason right now, take that as still a GOOD sign.

Here is what you need to do to make your ex girlfriend or any woman fall in love with you:

  1. Be confident, confident and confident! Girls love confident men who know what they want and takes ACTION to get it. If you want her, go all out dramatic and crazy to show you want her. This does NOT mean acting like a drama queen and crying and begging them to come back. This is NOT confidence.

  1. Give not a good apology, but an AMAZING apology. You can not expect to simply say ‘I’m sorry, you are the love of my life’ and all will be forgiven. Put a lot of thought into your apology. Do something really creative but most importantly from the bottom of your heart. You need to be extremely genuine and honest. If a simple note or simply apologizing in person will not do. It’s time to get theatrical. Send her dozens and dozens of flowers (if she likes flowers that is), show her you love her in front of 1000s of people (just make sure you know she won’t get too embarrassed and hate you for it). You get the picture. Obviously you know your girl best, so think of something especially for HER.

  1. Obviously even if your spell is working on her by this point, you still can not expect the relationship to last unless you deal with what the initial issues were that broke up the relationship in the first place. You and her need to have a nice talk about it and understand you BOTH need to put the effect into making the relationship work again. See a counsellor or professional if you must, but do something instead of falling back into old routines.

  1. If you have tried apologizing and showing her great gestures of love but she still resists, it’s time to back off just a little bit. At least in front of her eyes anyway. Ease off contact for a few weeks to give her space. Make sure thought that you use this time to work on yourself. Work out, eat healthy, take care of yourself mentally and physically, and make sure all your friends and her friends WITNESS this. Word will get back to her and this will make her curious.

  1. Start dating and socializing. Get yourself out there and have fun. You’re not trying to get her jealous although you might, but you should never do it DELIBERATELY you know what I mean? Just enjoy yourself during this time. DON’T however sleep around if you still want your ex back. If she wants to come back, she might not like the fact you slept with 10 other girls right after the break up.

Will these work for you? Nothing will do it if you don’t do anything. Of course I know not many men WOULD do it because they can’t get over themselves and feel like it’s not in their personality to show massive signs of affection. But really that’s what girls want to see. Girls all secretly want a ‘real life’ knight that won’t care how silly or dumb they look just to show them how much they love them. I hope you find the inner knight within you.

Thursday, June 26, 2008

How to Let Go of The Past

One of more common issues that couples deal with is the unwillingness to let go of past mistakes or arguments. They are like sleeping volcanoes waiting to erupt every time a fight breaks out. Couples seem to indulge in revisiting past issues over and over until they pile up so high, the relationship finally collapses from a foundation made up of resentment and lies. You may feel those issues still resonating even after the break up.

If you want your ex girlfriend back, there is no way to get around it, you and HER need to let go of the past.

How do you let go of the past? Can you think back to some arguments you have had, try to remember what triggered the past been brought up. This could be another person because someone cheated. Perhaps a look your ex girlfriend gave to someone else, or perhaps you came home late one night and got accused of something you didn’t do.

Did someone jump to conclusions too fast? Was it you? If you accused your ex of doing something, whether it was true or not, they are going to be hurt that you thought less of them. Thinking less of someone is just another way to show them that you don’t APPRECIATE them.

This would only force them to become defensive. In the process of acting defensive, they will be more likely to attack you for something and the next thing you know a big fight breaks out.

If you want your girlfriend back, you need to have trust in her. The past is the past and everyone makes mistakes. How else can you learn from them? If you are a jealous person, you may need to work on your own self-esteem. Why ‘are’ you jealous? Do you not think you are good enough? Do you think perhaps you were your own worst enemy and at the end of the day you self-sabotaged the relationship?

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Is it Possible to Get Her Back?

There is many reasons why relationships fail but the main reason why women leave their man is because they just don't feel appreciated anymore. You might not understand what is meant by that, perhaps you were showering her with attention and then the blow simply came out of nowhere. Women likes a bit of romance and mystery in their life, whether you've been together for a month or a few years. You need to keep the passion and romance alive.

Now if you've been dumped, you may not be sure whether there is hope left in getting her back. Thing is it's not too late. As I have mentioned, women simply wants to know you care and appreciate her. In order to do that you need to pay attention to what she says and what her wants are. If she wants you to stop being lazy and put more effort into being more romantic, then you need to DO that. Really put the effort in, and not just for a month or so and then stop, but continuously.

Hey no one said relationships were going to be easy. If she is resistant in taking you back then it is clear she just doesn't believe what you are saying. You need to show her you are committed. If it's romance and excitement she wants, sent her a dozen roses a day for a week.

If it's commitment that she wants, you may not have to propose but take the next step up. Eg move in together

If she tells you she has lost interest in you and doesn't know why, you need to read between the lines for what she wants. She might be at a time in her life where she wants to find out what else is out there. If so, LET HER. Give her what she wants!

It may be hard if what she wants is to be left alone and not talk to you for a while, but you need to do it. Eventually as time goes on you can slowly try to talk to her again. But right now, she broke up with you for a reason so don't push the issue with her anymore.

Win Your Ex Back