Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Should You Still Give Your Ex Girlfriend A Gift This Holidays?

If your break up was filled with bitterness and angst, you might not want to give your ex girlfriend a gift, but in the case that it wasn't or you're hoping that perhaps giving her a gift might bring her back. Here's something to think about.

If your break up was recent and close to the holidays, it might still seem like a good idea to give her a gift. You want to show you still care and perhaps you have already got her present lined up.

It can be a bit complicated now that you're separated. If you withhold, and she gives a gift, that will make you feel bad for not getting her one. Here's the thing though, although you still want to seem like the good guy. I suggest NOT getting her anything. In fact, you should be keeping your distance if she is not willing to take you back right now.

As nice as it will seem to get her something this holiday, what kind of message will that be giving her? That you're a sweet and nice guy. Great... but she doesn't want this sweet and nice guy anymore, not as a romantic partner anyway, but maybe she'll hang onto him as a friend instead since he is sooo nice!

This is not how you want her to think. You don't need to send her a note or tell her that you won't allow yourself to be her "friend" anymore.

Ok, so it's probably not always possible to avoid her this holidays. So don't, wait for her to come to you and see what she says or does. If you're just a good natured person, get her something as a backup, but don't give it to her unless she gives you something.

This will make things even and she will know you won't just bend over backwards to please her.

Have a good holiday spirit and remember not to mop around the house!

Sunday, October 19, 2008

How Do I Get My Girlfriend Back? First Steps to a Successful Reunion

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After a break up, you might be tempted to get your ex girlfriend back by wooing her with gifts and sweet romantic gestures. These would have been wonderful during the relationship, but sometimes men need a kick in the butt before they can really BE romantic around his girl.

You might have tried professing your love, apologizing profusely and eagerly pulling out the wallet to impress your girlfriend back with expensive toys, but what's the problem with all that?

You haven't truly understood why she left in the first place. So here it is... if you're feeling stuck and frustrated; the question "How Do I Get My Girlfriend Back", the only thing you can focus on.. then here's the first steps to a successful reunion with your girlfriend:

Step 1:
Stop trying so hard to get her back. No one likes to be around the desperate, especially if you're after something she has. Your girlfriend will be more inclined to withhold being with you if you're coming on too strong. Stop calling her over and over and trying to get her to listen to your explanations. She's not interested... at least not yet.

Step 2:
Give her a bit of space instead. No one wants to be smothered to death and if you're still unsure why she left in the first place, it's even more a reason to keep your distance for now. Get your head straight and find out exactly why things have went downhill so fast.

Step 3:
There's no point in me telling you to get about her for a month because chances are she'll be all that you think about. Instead however, think of this period as a temporary and much needed break between the two of you. Try to keep yourself busy; hang out with friends, dive into work, focus on other interests and areas of your life so you're not bumming around your house all depressed and miserable.

Doing this will give you a clearer perspective of the relationship and you'll be more level headed enough to see what you need to do to win her back.

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Friday, August 22, 2008

How To Make Your Ex-Girlfriend Come Back Without Begging

Even if you’re desperate, making your ex-girlfriend come back by begging is neither manly nor attractive. So what else can you do? Is it a case of being damned if you do and damned if you don’t? Not really.

Unless you did something wrong and didn’t apologize for it, apologize first. IF you had an affair, be careful not to apologize too quickly. Give your ex girlfriend some time to calm down and then try to initiate contact again. If they still don’t want you back, it’s time to start No Contact.

The only way to get your girlfriend back at this point is to give them space and have patience. If she wants to be friends, be careful if you still have deep feelings. Do you really want to be her friend or her boyfriend?

Does giving a gift count as begging?

In a way, yes, she knows you want her back and using a gift as a way of ‘buying’ her back. It might work for some, but it probably won’t last.

Should you write her a letter?

I don’t feel this is really necessary unless you have unresolved feelings you need to get out. Although I still feel in that regard, you should write your feelings down but NOT send it. Often a letter will not do much good, sometimes even making things worse.

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How To Make Your Ex-Girlfriend Come Back Without Begging

Even if you’re desperate, making your ex-girlfriend come back by begging is neither manly nor attractive. So what else can you do? Is it a case of being damned if you do and damned if you don’t? Not really.

Unless you did something wrong and didn’t apologize for it, apologize first. IF you had an affair, be careful not to apologize too quickly. Give your ex girlfriend some time to calm down and then try to initiate contact again. If they still don’t want you back, it’s time to start No Contact.

The only way to get your girlfriend back at this point is to give them space and have patience. If she wants to be friends, be careful if you still have deep feelings. Do you really want to be her friend or her boyfriend?

Does giving a gift count as begging?

In a way, yes, she knows you want her back and using a gift as a way of ‘buying’ her back. It might work for some, but it probably won’t last.

Should you write her a letter?

I don’t feel this is really necessary unless you have unresolved feelings you need to get out. Although I still feel in that regard, you should write your feelings down but NOT send it. Often a letter will not do much good, sometimes even making things worse.

Saturday, August 16, 2008

How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back When There's Someone Else

So sadly your girlfriend has dumped you and suddenly they’ve got their arms around a new guy. Who is this guy and how could your ex just throw your relationship away like that?

The first thing you must realize is no amount of cry or begging is going to make her dump the new guy and come back to you. Remember women are attracted to strong and confident men. Crying and begging only tells her you’re the opposite of that.

So what does strong, confident men do if they see their ex with another guy? You act mature and treat it as if you could CARE LESS. Because obviously you’re confident so why should it bother you if your ex decided to go for someone less inferior and oh yes they ARE inferior.

You need to make your girl see that you are clearly the better choice between the two of you so you better man up and show it to her.

Start implementing no contact and if she calls, politely but firmly let her know when she’s figured out exactly what she wants from you to then give you a call.

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Sunday, July 20, 2008

Get Ex Girlfriend Back: How to Impress Her Enough to Come Back

Impressing your ex-girlfriend is not the same as impressing her when you first met. She knows you enough by now that your original ‘charms’ are clouded by arguments, conflicts or pure disappoints. Can you impress her again? Of course! As much as someone may think they know you, they never can ‘really’ know everything.

Impressing your ex-girlfriend contains a combination of what ‘used’ to impress her and then magnifying it with an element of surprise. Take something you know she likes is a start. Next you want to combine that with something new, make sure this is not material things but something new about yourself. For example, getting a new job, getting more fit, joining a class etc

If this packs a surprise element, you’ll gain extra points. Remember however, the best way to impress is also to remain true to yourself. You can ‘pretend’ and put on an act all you want but it will not be long lasting if this is what you’ve set up for yourself.

The important thing is to do the things that will ‘impress’ but also do them because you enjoy it and you’re feeling good about yourself. If you’re not enjoying it, then it will not work in the long run. For one thing they will be short lived and not serve as enough of an impact to really effect your girlfriend’s opinion of you.

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Monday, June 30, 2008

How to Make Your Ex Fall in Love With You Again

Here is something that you guys might have heard of before. Girls LOVE romance! If you want to make them fall and fall hard, you have to ride up to them like their knight in shining armour. So what if they have dumped you recently and right now they even HATE you? Well, as you know, there is a very thin line between love and hate. If they vehemently despise you for whatever reason right now, take that as still a GOOD sign.

Here is what you need to do to make your ex girlfriend or any woman fall in love with you:

  1. Be confident, confident and confident! Girls love confident men who know what they want and takes ACTION to get it. If you want her, go all out dramatic and crazy to show you want her. This does NOT mean acting like a drama queen and crying and begging them to come back. This is NOT confidence.

  1. Give not a good apology, but an AMAZING apology. You can not expect to simply say ‘I’m sorry, you are the love of my life’ and all will be forgiven. Put a lot of thought into your apology. Do something really creative but most importantly from the bottom of your heart. You need to be extremely genuine and honest. If a simple note or simply apologizing in person will not do. It’s time to get theatrical. Send her dozens and dozens of flowers (if she likes flowers that is), show her you love her in front of 1000s of people (just make sure you know she won’t get too embarrassed and hate you for it). You get the picture. Obviously you know your girl best, so think of something especially for HER.

  1. Obviously even if your spell is working on her by this point, you still can not expect the relationship to last unless you deal with what the initial issues were that broke up the relationship in the first place. You and her need to have a nice talk about it and understand you BOTH need to put the effect into making the relationship work again. See a counsellor or professional if you must, but do something instead of falling back into old routines.

  1. If you have tried apologizing and showing her great gestures of love but she still resists, it’s time to back off just a little bit. At least in front of her eyes anyway. Ease off contact for a few weeks to give her space. Make sure thought that you use this time to work on yourself. Work out, eat healthy, take care of yourself mentally and physically, and make sure all your friends and her friends WITNESS this. Word will get back to her and this will make her curious.

  1. Start dating and socializing. Get yourself out there and have fun. You’re not trying to get her jealous although you might, but you should never do it DELIBERATELY you know what I mean? Just enjoy yourself during this time. DON’T however sleep around if you still want your ex back. If she wants to come back, she might not like the fact you slept with 10 other girls right after the break up.

Will these work for you? Nothing will do it if you don’t do anything. Of course I know not many men WOULD do it because they can’t get over themselves and feel like it’s not in their personality to show massive signs of affection. But really that’s what girls want to see. Girls all secretly want a ‘real life’ knight that won’t care how silly or dumb they look just to show them how much they love them. I hope you find the inner knight within you.

Thursday, June 26, 2008

How to Let Go of The Past

One of more common issues that couples deal with is the unwillingness to let go of past mistakes or arguments. They are like sleeping volcanoes waiting to erupt every time a fight breaks out. Couples seem to indulge in revisiting past issues over and over until they pile up so high, the relationship finally collapses from a foundation made up of resentment and lies. You may feel those issues still resonating even after the break up.

If you want your ex girlfriend back, there is no way to get around it, you and HER need to let go of the past.

How do you let go of the past? Can you think back to some arguments you have had, try to remember what triggered the past been brought up. This could be another person because someone cheated. Perhaps a look your ex girlfriend gave to someone else, or perhaps you came home late one night and got accused of something you didn’t do.

Did someone jump to conclusions too fast? Was it you? If you accused your ex of doing something, whether it was true or not, they are going to be hurt that you thought less of them. Thinking less of someone is just another way to show them that you don’t APPRECIATE them.

This would only force them to become defensive. In the process of acting defensive, they will be more likely to attack you for something and the next thing you know a big fight breaks out.

If you want your girlfriend back, you need to have trust in her. The past is the past and everyone makes mistakes. How else can you learn from them? If you are a jealous person, you may need to work on your own self-esteem. Why ‘are’ you jealous? Do you not think you are good enough? Do you think perhaps you were your own worst enemy and at the end of the day you self-sabotaged the relationship?

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Is it Possible to Get Her Back?

There is many reasons why relationships fail but the main reason why women leave their man is because they just don't feel appreciated anymore. You might not understand what is meant by that, perhaps you were showering her with attention and then the blow simply came out of nowhere. Women likes a bit of romance and mystery in their life, whether you've been together for a month or a few years. You need to keep the passion and romance alive.

Now if you've been dumped, you may not be sure whether there is hope left in getting her back. Thing is it's not too late. As I have mentioned, women simply wants to know you care and appreciate her. In order to do that you need to pay attention to what she says and what her wants are. If she wants you to stop being lazy and put more effort into being more romantic, then you need to DO that. Really put the effort in, and not just for a month or so and then stop, but continuously.

Hey no one said relationships were going to be easy. If she is resistant in taking you back then it is clear she just doesn't believe what you are saying. You need to show her you are committed. If it's romance and excitement she wants, sent her a dozen roses a day for a week.

If it's commitment that she wants, you may not have to propose but take the next step up. Eg move in together

If she tells you she has lost interest in you and doesn't know why, you need to read between the lines for what she wants. She might be at a time in her life where she wants to find out what else is out there. If so, LET HER. Give her what she wants!

It may be hard if what she wants is to be left alone and not talk to you for a while, but you need to do it. Eventually as time goes on you can slowly try to talk to her again. But right now, she broke up with you for a reason so don't push the issue with her anymore.

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